Are you generous or making an investment?

Dear Singles

Are you generous or making an investment?

The bulk money and resources you give to your lover is it an act of generosity or investment opportunity?

That was how one sister gave a whole 3M to her boyfriend to start transport business.

The guy had been without job for three years (after NYSC).

Their relationship is about 16 months old.

They have started to talk about getting married. But how could they marry when the guy doesn't have a job?

The lady decided to help him out so that he could be financial OK for marriage.

She spoke (lied) to her daddy and she was able to get 3M from him.

So she transferred the whole money into his account.

So everything continued to go smoothly in their relationship. In fact the love becoming stronger than before.

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Intimacy induced by money.

Later on they had some disagreement which shouldn't mean much but before you can understand what was going on the Lover Boy declared that the relationship was over.

The sister thought it was a joke. But it wasn't. He had made up his mind to quit the relationship.

His reason?

He can't marry a lady that can't be submissive to his authority.

Fast forward...

They are seriously having legal battles now.

She wants to recover her 3M but the guy claim the money was a gift which there wasn't any agreement on terms and condition.

So I ask you today... Are you just generous or you are making an investment?

You are giving? Yes, it is good.

You can't truly love and not give.

But when you are giving what could cause "trouble" in the future, why give it?

The lady you are "sending" to school now, what will happen after 6 years of her medical training, she tells you that she can't marry you because...

Where her mummy went to pray, the prophet said you are water while she is fear.

So you are not compatible.

Where was her mother when you were "spending" on her?

Where was their prophet when you saw her through medical school?

If you will attempt murder or suicide, because the guy or lady you spent on disappointed you, then you should stopping the spending.

Give and support because you love to do so not because of marriage promise.

Don't lend that guy that money if it would become police case if he fail to refund you.

Give what you won't regret.

Give what you can do away with.

Give what you have.

Give not to impress.

Give not because you are pressured into giving.

I have seen a lot, that is why am addressing this issue today.

Giving is good and the right thing to do but don't give what you will regret.

Some relationship will end if someone stop giving financial inducement. Why? The relationship is not about love but gifts availability.

Such person will remain with you until he or she has gotten enough from you.

Am I saying it is wrong to give? No!

I'm saying give what you won't regret giving. Give because you want to bless someone not because you want a return on your investment.

You are not married and you have put your monies together to start a business. No legal documentation? It is well with you both sir and ma.

 Pst Gesh